tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2924805302246292046.post8942622477068140080..comments2018-06-02T11:16:45.844-05:00Comments on Nadia's Blog: Hunger Games: What We ChoseNadiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06565381321728588108noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2924805302246292046.post-35097204886233395682012-03-27T14:10:31.069-05:002012-03-27T14:10:31.069-05:00Kudos to you nadj!
We need to engage with our ki...Kudos to you nadj! <br /><br />We need to engage with our kids as they engage with the world. They need us when things are light and beautiful, but how much more when things are dark and ugly. I think that is part of my job as a parent to teach them how to engage with, grieve over and learn from the dark and ugly in life. Because it will come, they will see it and feel it.<br />I think sometimes our desire to protect our kids isn't totally for their benefit, but also to avoid the pains it brings us to see them wrestle and hurt. I cried over and talked about these books with my 15 yr. old, who is thoughtful, but analytical. I want him to KNOW that all families aren't like ours and to know how to step into that and not run away. I want that for my other boys as well, but although my 11 yr. old is able to read these books, his sensitive heart and deep thoughts mean that actually reading them will be put off until he can bare them.<br /><br />It reminds me of that part in Corrie Ten Boom's The Hiding Place. She's a young girl on the train with her father and asks him about "sex sin". He doesn't answer her, but when the train stops asks her to carry his suitcase. When she protests that it is too heavy and she is too small, he relates it back to her question, telling her that some knowledge is too heavy for young children, but that she will know as she gets older.<br /><br />The balance is both not avoiding heavy topics with our children, but knowing when to talk with them, as well as helping them to be strong enough to bear the burdens when we do talk with them. The only way to do that is to build up their "muscles" of hope, faith and love amidst the darkness, bit by bit. It's work for them and it can hurt, but we can be good coaches and not exasperate them. <br /><br />SO COOL to hear of the great conversations in your home and the trust between you and your kids!lisawilcohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15904143965656648493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2924805302246292046.post-65263529141745195642012-03-27T12:47:07.079-05:002012-03-27T12:47:07.079-05:00wow... I'm so thankful that my boys are too yo...wow... I'm so thankful that my boys are too young for me to have to deal with this. But I know I will have to eventually. <br />I think that there are necessary exposures and then pointless ones. I loved every minute of the 3 books and I also loved the movie. I see true VALUE in this story. I think it is powerful and meaningful and instructional. This is a necessary one. Twilight... not so much. <br />I think you did good in not just allowing your kids to be exposed to it, but also exposing YOURSELF to it and taking the ride with them. You were able to answer questions and help them through those emotions, as only an adult can. <br />I admire your parenting style and I hope I remember to be "in-touch" with my boys like that.Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15725310448387210231noreply@blogger.com